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Save me NOT- I am a girl child
Nandini Ratnaparkhi , Mhow(MP): May 3 2008
Made Popular May 3 2008
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Save me NOT- I am a girl child

Though still in the womb, I am already distraught with the happenings in the surroundings. The filthy crimes and atrocities against the girl-child and women are a proof that NOTHING has changed from the days of evolution.
Women are ill treated in every walk of life, in every part of the world, unbelievably rampant in India.

Be it a minor or an old lady of 80, any ‘female’ from a ‘few days old’ to ‘few days to live’ is susceptible to molestation, rape, sale, physical abuse and murder. Being mentally challenged, being chronically ill, being blind or being disabled does not safeguard you from any such evils. If some one claims to be your lover and you do not reciprocate, acid might be splashed on you or you could be ‘murdered in public view’.

Then there are the wife beating; dowry burning; naked parading; molesting by teachers; molesting by ‘uncles’ and grand fathers; sexual harassment at work place, acid attacks; couch casting, lewd remarks, cheap and vulgar gestures, stalking; marital rape and so many other things. Latest are the cyber crimes. ‘MMS’ the mod league. When police personnel can rape minors, who can feel safe?

The abuses against females of all ages are varied. Some times trivial sounding ones also impact the morals. One day 12 yr old Niti came home demoralized from school. She was hurt that the sports teacher does not allow girls to play basket ball. “He rather ensures that boys practice and win the tournaments. He thinks these are boy’s games…” Even karate is only for boys.

Sneha always complains that her science teacher Mr. Surya Prakash encourages only boys for debates, projects, outdoor assignments and competitions. “He openly says taking girls to other schools is a big ‘lafda’ and far too big a responsibility. The parents of girl students refuse to send girls to other cities so why get into the hassle and give them a chance at all…”

Radhika’s father Mr. Raghav candidly says, “I can’t trust any one where my daughter is concerned and I can’t take leave to accompany her every time, so I do not let her participate in any of the talent shows. She is a qualified good singer, and my heart breaks that I am hindering her progress, but then the world is not safe…”
Anjali was a very good cadet and had become the Sargent Major of her NCC girl’s battalion. Her father did not allow her to go to Delhi for RD parade. Anjali’s brother had participated in the RD parade earlier. Anjali’s being a girl was her biggest crime.
Vidula gets paranoid when her daughter gets late even by a few minutes. “I bought her a mobile just so that I can reach her where ever she is. It doesn’t reduce my worry much, but at least I can be in touch” it was not so with Ravi her son.

Why go further- I heard my grandmother praying often that “God let it be a boy…and I will offer you…” though she herself is a woman. “… In fact, because I myself am a woman that is why… ”, she was once telling mother, “I don’t want you to bring a girl in the big bad world… and keep worrying till death of either…”
Being born in any ‘strata’ of life doesn’t safe guard the girl-a female is a female-a utility item, a problem attracter in this world. If she ‘plays up’/ cooperates it is SEX, if she ‘protests’ it is RAPE.

AND SO, I would rather NOT be born; and save my parents from a life full of tension and prayers; of apprehensions and reservations. And I would rather not go through the battery of Dos and Don’ts. I would rather not be a puppet in the men’s world.
For me my mother is already afraid. That makes me intimidated.
Like me all the girl children should REFUSE TO BE BORN, sit back and watch the Gay world that results. So I earnestly beg- SAVE ME NOT, I AM A GIRL CHILD.

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2 Stars
The increasing disproportionate ratio between male and female birth is a matter of concern as the declining number of women will lead to the increased atrocities on them.

The write up sums up the agony of a girl child in the right perspective. But days are changing. With more information exposure, cases of atrocities on women are now more highlighted. In the post such cases often went unreported and therefore undiscussed.

In such a shameful situation India is not exception. The case of Mukhtar Bai in Pakistan took place a few years ago. Even in the United States, chances of Ms. Clinton seem to the dim because she is a woman. On the other, we the countries in the Indian sub-continent can smugly claim that the heads of state in India, Pakista, Sri Lanka and Bangladesh have been women. In case of Bangladesh and Sri Lanka more than once.

The only remedy is to get more and more female education.

It is also correct that woman in the form of a mother-in-law is the worst enemy of another woman in the form of daughter-in-law.

At the same time, some unscrupulous women too take advantage of sympathy for the fair or weaker sex by concocting false cases against men in dowry abolition act or falsely implicating their male counterparts in offices for sexual harassment.
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Nadia
Islamabad, Pakistan
The talented writer is an Indian and she has given examples of Indian families in her well-written article. @ author, if you just change the names of characters with Muslim names, it would become the story of Pakistan. We are facing the similar problem in our country. I am in support of your idea - all girls should REFUSE TO BE BORN.
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Fantaghiro
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Abusing or killing women and girls is the greatest violation of human rights. 93 million women and girls have been missing from the total count of the world population due to the practice of sex-selective abortion, female infanticide, malnutrition, abuse and neglect of girl children. Can you imagine that the numbers are roughly equal to all the deaths occurred in all the wars in the 20th century. What kind of world is this where 93 million female lives can be extinguished so easily. What happened to our moral outrage?
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A lot can be said on this topic. though it is true that the exposure today bring the incidents to light, shouldn’t this exposure also act as deterrent to the miscreants? It unfortunately doesn’t do so. Instead at times one feels that the media spreads wrong ideas more than doing any good.
Which ever country we name, the basic ’Male chauvinist’ attitude is THE problem. Why other wise the job done by a lady- what ever it might be, is looked at with a different ’consessional’ attitude?
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Speaking of moral outrage, do not expect men to show it. And women have to be bothered of saving their own skin.
Have you come across any woman who has decided NOT to bear a male child? Would she abort a male foetus? would she kill a new - born because it is a MALE child??
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Ranita
kolkata, India
This has been the story for ages and unfortunately in a country like India, which still so much caught in the clutches of gender taboo it appears the scene is noy going to change even in another 10 years. Even after having daughters liek Indira Gandhi, Kalpana Chawla, Mira Nair, Aparna Sen and Kiran Bedi indian families still hanker for a male child such a shame! Yea truly, i think the best solution is girl babies should start rejecting birth, or else what else can stirr a change?
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@ Ranita

Your desperate comments are justified. Our head hangs in shame. But think about your contribution in spreading the human race. Without you and your willingness, human race shall cease to increase in number, thus leading to the extinction of human race.

These days, blessed are parents with at least a daughter because you look after your parents well but often shun your parents-in-laws. Exceptions are there. Can any one explain this paradox. There is no better guarantee for happy old days if you sire a daughter.
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Varsha
Kolkata, India
Parents-in -law are no less, if they are not physically torturing their daughters-in-law, they are mentally torturing them.If a daughter -in -law is welcomed whole heartedly into her husbands family, there is no reason for her to shun her parents -in -law.Its a give and take situation i guess.
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